Spastic Diplegia Parents Network

My 24 yr. old daughter has cerebral palsy. She cannot walk, she uses a wheelchair outside for outings, etc. , but likes to crawl around on the floor at home. She has perfect speech and knows right from wrong, so she’s pretty good cognitively. For the last couple of years she has become more and more difficult. She hits me, slaps me, etc. when I tell her its time to get a bath, go to bed, etc. Even when it’s time to do something fun that she wants/likes to do; like go to a ballgame, bowling, swimming, etc. It’s like she just wants to be contrary!! I have tried time outs, ignoring her, everything possible but to no avail. She has no problems with anyone at day habilitation or anywhere, she is an angel for them, it’s just me… her mother. I am at my wits ends with her. I have consider taking her to see a psychologist, but her support coordinator thinks it’s just an issue with me – that I have to ignore. Her daddy and I are divorced so he doesn’t live with us and doesn’t have to deal with these problems. He will talk to her on the phone about her acting up and she’ll promise to behave for me, but it doesn’t last. Plus I want her to listen to me! I don’t want to have to call her daddy every timee she misbehaves.

Has anyone else out there had to deal with a child like this, or does anyone have any suggestions?